In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, host Matt Abrahams speaks with Adam Grant, organizational psychologist, top-rated Wharton professor, bestselling author of Think Again and Hidden Potential, and host of TED's Re: Thinking. His new book Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World asks why some conversations leave us buzzing, and others leave us drained.
Together, Matt and Adam discuss:
• A single swapped word turned a roomful of brutal reviews into really useful advice for Adam.
• The one-line reply to the joke that Adam opened with for a room of generals that broke the ice.
• A French-born word that explains why back-to-back video calls leave you flat.
• The three-part menu Adam checks before reaching for any new relationship.
• The cold-email habit that makes Adam stop reading. (And what he's prefer to see instead.)
From podium jitters to generals' call signs to tiny reminders that land months later, Adam turns raw nerves and awkward first encounters into a connection you can actually measure. Press play and steal his reps.
About The Guest
Adam Grant is an organizational psychologist and top-rated professor at the Wharton School, a bestselling author of books including Think Again and Hidden Potential, and the host of the TED podcast Re: Thinking. His research on motivation and workplace dynamics reaches millions through his books, TED talks, and his Granted newsletter. His newest book is Vibe: The Secrets of Strong Connections in a Lonely World, due out with Penguin Random House. He joins the show for the first time.
About Matt
Matt Abrahams is a leading communication expert, lecturer in organizational behavior at Stanford GSB, and host of the award-winning Think Fast, Talk Smart podcast. He has coached presenters at TED, the World Economic Forum, and the UN Secretary-General's office, and his online talks have garnered millions of views worldwide. He is the author of Think Faster, Talk Smarter and Speaking Up without Freaking Out, two bestselling guides to confident, spontaneous communication.
Key Quotes
• "I realized I had that backward. I needed to take the action in order to build my confidence." - Adam Grant (05:09)
• "I've come to believe that feedback is overrated and advice is underrated when it comes to learning." - Adam Grant (08:55)
• "One of the strongest signs that you're vibing with somebody is that you can have an argument with them and come away feeling like I understood them better." - Adam Grant (16:40)
• "Do not propose collaboration on the first date." - Adam Grant (21:40)
Chapters
00:00 Introduction
01:03 The Tell in His Hands
04:03 He Had Confidence, But Backward
08:17 Stop Asking for Feedback
13:45 Balancing Competence & Connection
15:21 How Do You Know You're Vibing?
18:52 Pick Your Wavelength First
23:38 Matt's 3 Questions
30:34 Conclusion
Relevant Links:
• Adam's Grant: https://www.fastersmarter.io/guests/adam-grant/
• Adam's Book Vibe: https://bookplease.ai/grant/vibe-the-secrets-of-strong-connections-in-a-lonely-world?podcast=think-fast-talk-smart
• Re:Thinking Podcast (TED): https://www.ted.com/podcasts/rethinking-with-adam-grant
Episode References:
• Ep. 80 - Going Viral: How Language Affects Persuasion, Influence, and Attention
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0OiM2YeU2iM / https://www.fastersmarter.io/80-magic-words-change-what-you-say-to-inspire-and-influence-others/
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